How many of us have constantly had an issue with our “men” all looking the same (not physically, but emotionally)? They all spout a good game from the start. The problem is that it is just that. A game.

In the beginning, that is what it is like. They dress nice and smell good when you go out. They tell you all of the things that you want to hear (all because we have been programed from birth to get our validation from a man). We have to be told that we are beautiful or smart. We have to have someone confirm what we should already know. And let’s face it, men are taught young to say what they think a woman wants to hear. They are taught to flatter women just enough to get one hooked and then the rules change. Suddenly they stop caring about how we feel or what we think. Now they believe that they have the right to critique our appearance, instead of being proud of the fact that they have the privilege to be part of our lives……. Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes this goes for the opposite sex as well. The point is that we all need to stop looking for other people to validate our existence. Ladies no matter what your flaws are, what your deformities may be or what society has done to your self-esteem…….You are worthy of love. You are beautiful in your own way. You are good enough and in some cases too good for others. Stop looking for a man (or woman) to tell you that you are what you are! Screw the game! You’re worth more than a game.

I realize I talk (type) a lot, but this is real world experience. I’ve been hurt more times than I want to admit. I went through the phase of thinking that I needed a man to validate me and my feelings. My ex had me convinced that no-one would ever want me and that I was not attractive in any way. What is really bad is that I believed him. He really made me believe that I might as well be Shrek to men out there. However, you know what happened when I finally got out in society? I realized that none of the people out there are actually happy. I realized that I am not that bad. People were curious about me and men wanted to know about me. I had never given anyone a chance because I didn’t think I was good enough. I was told many, many times that my ex is stupid and that I should have been better to myself all this time. It wasn’t just men, but women that made sure to let me know. For this, I have to say thank you so much to all of the people out there that did not “hold their tongues.” Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being decent. Thank you for being a real human being that knows flaws do not make a person. I strive to be that person for anyone that has an issue with themselves. We all have issues. I have issues. You need someone to talk to? I’m here. I’ll talk to you.

I do NOT have rights to the picture, but I like it. lol